Book: A book about how to appreciate and take care of yourself

You say: “It hurts me,” and they answer you: “No, you don’t...”. It doesn't hurt you. Are you scared. You're not feeling bad. You're not tired. This is a whim, be a soldier, pull yourself together, pull yourself together. And you're going to. Once you're going, twice you're going, three, four, five you're going, eighteen times you're going, forty-three. And you really feel how you become more hardened and stronger, how your skin becomes rougher, how your armor grows. And where there used to be something alive and warm, a cold void forms.

Feelings - they are always about “now”, and not about character. If you're angry, it doesn't say anything about what kind of person you are, but it can say a lot about what's going on. Your boundaries may be being violated. Or what is dear to you depreciates. Or you haven’t rested for so long that your body has switched to combat readiness mode and now reacts with the command “Enemy!” even the slightest movement of the shadow of a branch.

It’s normal to love passionately, to the point of trembling and dizziness, and normal to not love like that.

In a world in which I am happy with myself, I tell myself: I will do this later, this a few months later later, but I will never do this. Because for some things there's never a right time

My parents' house is my parents' house, and mine is the one I build myself.

Forgive yourself for “imperfection” and “inconsistency”, let go of the illusion of omnipotence, admit that you do not have a hundred hands and only one life - and choose yourself instead of heroism.

It’s not scary to one day experience hatred for a loved one; it’s scary not to allow yourself to feel anything but love for him.

There is a good phrase about this: if it seems to you that something is wrong, then most likely it doesn’t seem to you.

More precisely, the experience that we get when we grow up.

It's great that I have all of you; What a pity that I don't need any of you.

Self-love is about learning to appreciate your own toolbox instead of envying someone else's. One has a magnifying glass in it, which allows you to see great things in small things. The second one has a hatchet to cut off the excess. The third has a tape measure, with which he measures everything around, the fourth has an excellent tool for thickening colors. It is normal if there is no emotion amplifier in the box. This is your feature, not marriage.

Tenderness for yourself begins with allowing yourself to feel everything that is felt, without regard to what others think, and without dividing feelings into good and bad.

In my opinion, a difficult but important step in personal development is to shorten the phrase: “I feel this way because ...” to “I feel this way. Period”, and try to find as many ways as possible to support yourself here and now, in the conditions in which you live, and with those with whom you live.

We understand that the world through the eyes of a child and the world through the skin of an adult are two different Universes, and instead of digging in resentment against people from the past and considering ourselves a victim, it will be more tender to accept what has not happened, mourn the lost, mourn the unlived - and close the search topic reasons. Memory knows how to lie and manipulate, and one can be deeply and unfairly offended by those who had no intention of offending, because "they gave everything they could, what they didn't give, they couldn't."