the need [Theme]
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Chapter: 18
If a person has confidence in certain qualities of his personality, he does not have the need to prove their presence. If a person feels his strength, he does not need constant reinforcement of his confidence.
Even handing over your own partner to another man, which is the most excruciating and painful experience imaginable, is much more bearable than not being able to separate from her.
Quote Explanation: The “mother figure” for a narcissist can be a mother or a father.
- Naturally. How can you not shoot him? He definitely needs to be shot!
A person needs to feel valued, respected, approved and loved. He thinks that he will be accepted by others only if he shows himself to be “good.” He believes that if he shows his weaknesses, he will lose the respect and approval of people, and therefore is not able to admit them even to himself. At a deeper level of the psyche, a person's need for respect and approval is related to the need to feel that others recognize him as an individual.
Not a single cloud is repeated. Never. Everything in nature is unique. Everything is perfect and wonderful. We are also perfect and beautiful, at the soul level. We are different and that's wonderful. So is there a need to constantly think about what others will say?
Whoever needs someone is remembered by him.
On the way from the meadow to the house, I tried not to think about anything. My first editor liked to say that eighty percent of what goes through a novelist's head has nothing to do with his work, but I never believed that this applied only to writers. And the so-called sublime thoughts, to put it mildly, are greatly overrated. When faced with a problem and something needs to be done, I firmly believe that the best solution is to step aside and let the boys in the basement do their work. This is hard physical work, the lot of blue collar, non-unionized guys with huge biceps and a scattering of tattoos all over their bodies. They act guided by instinct, and turn to those above them for advice only as a last resort.
Activity and observation are the qualities that most need to be cultivated in young people.
If you need to think about something, then you are in the matrix.
This idea is that people need to take virtues from higher breeds, but definitely not from bulls and rams.
If you need to be quiet, be. Let your music sound in silence.
It was an honest and strange conversation with women I had never met before. None of us had all the answers. But that didn't seem like the goal. I needed to see it, like when you finally stop asking questions and start living the answers out loud.
If you find this letter ... How I found the meaning of life by writing hundreds of letters to strangers Hannah Brencher
It is best to use language only when necessary. In vain to talk a lot is like letting the garden completely overgrown with weeds. Shouldn't we reduce the number of weeds?
