Tom D'Ansenbur. Stop being good! How to stop adjusting to others and become happy (№ 411263)

If we grew up from the cradle in an atmosphere of tension and emotional discomfort, if from childhood we believed that aggression against another is the only way to take our place, unless we have renounced the idea of taking it at all, a certain rejection of well-being takes root in us. Well-being may not seem as exciting as difficulties, and not as safe, because it is unknown to us. Then it is possible that we will unconsciously recreate the circumstances familiar to us in order to find again the known and exciting.