What has changed? (№ 36693)

Comes to the father of a young girl and says:
- Father, I'm tired, I have such a hard life, such difficulties and problems, I always swimming against the tide, I have no more strength... what do I do?
Father instead of an answer set on fire three identical pans with water, one threw a carrot, put another egg, and the third poured coffee beans. After a while he pulled out of the water the carrots and egg and poured into a Cup of coffee from the third pot.
- What has changed? he asked his daughter.
- Egg and carrots cooked, and coffee beans were dissolved in water - she said.
- No, my daughter, is only a superficial view of things. Look - hard carrots, having been in boiling water, became soft and pliable. Fragile and liquid egg became hard. Externally they have not changed, they just changed their structure under the influence of the same adverse circumstances - boiling water. So people - strong externally, can get unstuck and become weak where fragile and tender only harden and become stronger...
- Coffee? - asked the daughter.
- Oh! This is the most interesting! Coffee beans completely dissolved in the new hostile environment and changed it - turned the boiling water into a magnificent flavored drink. There are special people who do not change because of the circumstances - they change the circumstances and turn them into something new and wonderful, benefiting and knowledge of the situation...