Carl Rogers. About the formation of personality (№ 45322)

I incredibly appreciate those moments when you allow yourself to understand the other. It may seem strange that this wording. Is it really necessary to afford? I thought, Yes. Our first reaction to most statements (which we hear from other people) is an evaluation or judgment, not understanding. When someone expresses some feeling, attitude or Outlook, we tend almost immediately to evaluate "right" or "foolish";"normal,""unwise,""improper," produces a pleasant experience". And very rarely we allow ourselves to exactly understand what means this statement of the other person.