Author of quotes: Carl Rogers

The individual is also the most common.

The problem arises when we try to justify the expectations of others, not your own.

In the early years of my career I asked myself the question: how can I heal this man? Now I formulate the question as follows: how do I build a relationship which this person may use for personal growth?

Maybe I can come closer to what really exists deep inside me, sometimes anger, sometimes fear, sometimes love and care, sometimes beauty, sometimes force, sometimes rage, - without hiding these feelings from myself. Maybe I can learn to appreciate the richness and diversity of what I am. Perhaps I can openly be more of themselves. If so, I can live according to their own experiences values, although I know all the social norms. I can afford to be all this complicated set of feelings, meanings and values with my partner - be free enough, to give love, anger and tenderness as they exist in me. Then maybe I can be a real partner because I'm on my way to becoming to be a real person. And I hope that I can help my partner to follow their own path to their unique humanity, which I would love to take.

Numerous problems arise when we try to meet the expectations of others, instead of having to define our own.

Words and symbols also belong to the world, to reality as a map to the territory which it represents. We live by the perceived "map", which is never reality itself.

I incredibly appreciate those moments when you allow yourself to understand the other. It may seem strange that this wording. Is it really necessary to afford? I thought, Yes. Our first reaction to most statements (which we hear from other people) is an evaluation or judgment, not understanding. When someone expresses some feeling, attitude or Outlook, we tend almost immediately to evaluate "right" or "foolish";"normal,""unwise,""improper," produces a pleasant experience". And very rarely we allow ourselves to exactly understand what means this statement of the other person.

Man is an ongoing process, not a frozen and static entity; it is a flowing river of change and not a solid piece of metal; it's constantly changing inflorescence of possibilities, not a frozen sum of the characteristics.