Irvin Yalom. Executioner of love (№ 454750)

“We fill in the physical outline of the being we see with all the ideas we have already built about it, and in the final image of it that we create in our mind, these ideas, of course, occupy the main place. Finally, they fit so closely to the contours of his cheeks, follow the curve of his nose so perfectly, blend so harmoniously with the sound of his voice, that it all seems to be nothing more than a transparent shell, so that every time we see a face or hear a voice , we recognize in it nothing more than our own ideas about it.