Book: To love with open eyes. Page 3

To the Union loving people to prosper, you must look at it from the other side: as a number of opportunities to expand their consciousness, discover a strange truth and to become a person in the full sense of the word.

The relationship dealt with real, not perfect perspective, open our eyes to many aspects of reality. And there is nothing more amazing than to experience your transformation with the one you love.

The idea that love will save us, solve all our problems and bring happiness and confidence that can lead only to what we get in the captivity of illusions and negate the true transformative power of love.

Favorite person does not save us from anything: he didn't have to save.

Love relationship encompass everything.
Therefore, they are worth it.
Worth the suffering that they cause.
Worth the pain we must endure.
Any difficulties valuable, because, having overcome all obstacles, we cease to be the same: we grew up, we better recognize and perceive your life, it becomes more complete.

... should learn to consider the relationship with the real, not the ideal position.

To suffer due to the fact that things are not as we imagined, not only useless, but also a sign of infantilism.

Surprisingly, the persistence with which people continue to look for those perfect relationship.
"... and here's someone H. realizes that his wife does not match the romantic image pocherpnut from books. He begins to convince themselves that other just have these idyllic relations that he seeks, and he was just unlucky... Because he made a mistake in choosing a wife..."
No!
This is not so.
He was not wrong in choosing a wife.
Erroneous was his idea of marriage and of the existence of a perfect couple. We need to calm down and realize that what we do not have, no one, and perfection is the destiny novels, often have no relation to reality.
The idea that the lawn at the neighbor's greener that the middle has something not available to us, we suffer.
Perhaps, understanding some simple truths will save many people from the senses, giving them life. The reality becomes much more attractive if we decide to enjoy it to the best of our ability, instead of having to worry about the fact that our illusions and dreams do not come true.

Does not happen without conflict of personal relationships. Conflicts are inevitable in any relationship between people.

To resolve conflicts from the perspective of "what's happening to me" is much more productive than trying to understand the situation when you rage and I am convinced that all the problems are concluded in the person who is next and in your opinion, is not suitable for you.
Many couples in the result part, and each of them thinks that the other person everything would be different. And, of course, then faced with the same situations has already met with the previous partner. Situations in which only changed partner.

Leave the dream of the perfect pair.

People are sincerely mistaken in thinking that love, but in reality they are dependent on the desire to possess another person.

Love is our relationship with ourselves, even if we chose a certain person to broadcast our feelings.

When love takes place, there is no other way than to face the true essence of another person.