Susan Forward. Men who hate women and the women who love these men (№ 274688)

Paul and Laura justify psychological violence by their partners, laying the blame on himself. They were convinced that if they find the "magic key" that will behave so that their partners were satisfied, and they again will be gentle and loving. [...] Unfortunately, the requirements Mizulina change all the time. What pleases him today, is unlikely to satisfy tomorrow. It is impossible to know what it will take from yourself the next time. Gradually the meaning of your life are trying to figure out how to give him pleasure.