Karsten Of Bredemeier. Black rhetoric: the Power and magic of words (№ 382751)

You should never repeat the rebuke delivered to your address because repetition reinforces said in the mind of the interlocutor.
Instead of repeating the rebuke, immediately answer it for you positive statement, in any case, do not use negation, followed by a repetition of the reproof type "it's not my fault that...".