Dean Delis, Cassandra Phillips. The paradox of passion (№ 390443)

To share the strong negative feelings it is possible to not blame them, nor partner, nor myself. The main thing is to consider them symptoms of incorrect behaviour. For example, start with the analysis of dangerous gusts and statements: "the Last time I (jealous, angry, worried, guilty, depressed, mean to criticize)" and finish the sentence: "...and I think it's because we're starting to follow the model... what do you think?"