Science to be alive. The dialogue between therapist and patients in humanistic therapy (№ 396221)

... most of the time we are dealing with things, people and situations that are beyond us. When we begin to think about yourself, then do it the same way - objectively, as if we are objects that can be manipulated. In many situations, it works well enough. But it's no damn good when we try to understand why we feel or do this or that, or when trying to change our feelings and actions arising from them. As in your case when you are trying to understand why start off with Tim. If you find the right explanation - whatever it was - it still won't help you change, until you touch it from the inside. So we need a different type of thinking - not objective. The other type is to listen to yourself, rather than to speculate about yourself.