Science to be alive. The dialogue between therapist and patients in humanistic therapy (№ 396226)

We even expected that our emotions will be permanent. "A few minutes ago I was angry and yelled at you. Now I feel relieved and even warm feelings for you. What is wrong with me that makes me so changeable? Only surface feelings change so quickly." So common sense says, and he's dead wrong. Feelings are flowing and evolving. Their expression promotes the movement. If we do not understand this simple truth, we feel foolish and vulnerable, actually expressing perfectly normal. "Because I was angry a minute ago, better for me to stay mad at you, and then you'll think I don't pay attention to this or take revenge on me now that I'm not armed with my anger. I have to think of something to stay mad at you." Thus, relationships suffer, and accumulates bitterness.