Erich Fromm. The art of love (№ 418372)

Both points of view - one that erotic love is from beginning to end a unique individual attraction of two specific people, and the other, that erotic love is nothing more than an act of will - are correct. Or, to put it more precisely, neither one nor the other is true. Thus, the idea that a relationship can be easily terminated if it is unsuccessful is as erroneous as the idea that a relationship should not be terminated under any circumstances.