Book: #In bed with your husband. Notes mistress. Wives to read!

Often the care of a mistress provokes a divorce, because the outlet is lost, and to live in a ruined marriage becomes unbearable.

There is a good saying: "You want to be right or happy?" I once spat on the rightness and correctness and chose to be poor but happy. And to this day always do so.

I am always genuinely amazed that this our typically Russian, by the way, the stereotype that you can achieve dizzying heights in any field to be required, to lead millions of people to do good deeds, but if you have no stamp in the passport and the status of "married," thousands "of happy wives and mothers" will you pour on the slop and reason that you have a defective personality.

Many, Oh, many girls fall into the trap of illusion - "love is everything". And if we have it, soon everything will be resolved in my favor, and we, hand in hand, will prishestviem into the sunset. Love, of course, has a number of magical and positive properties. But, forced to sadly admit that she decides not all. Otherwise we would live with you in the magical pink world and tastes like a fruit yogurt.

Love, of course, require evidence. For beautiful words is one thing. And real action is quite another. Each of us is very, very important every day to make sure that we are loved.

To conclude this Chapter I would like to quote a wonderful man. He spent his entire life devoted to bringing up children, and then died with them. Yes, I am about Janusz Korczak. Now, he said the paramount thing, "no Children. There are people". Remember that every time there is a seditious thought to use Chad as a unit to achieve their goals.

When you know that you are changing the thought of "what's wrong with me" is inevitable.

Love, my friends, it's fine, important and necessary. But try to do it on the ground, not in the world of pink and blue unicorns.

I periodically visited by the idea that there is a special school in which the treacherous apostate carefully studied such disciplines as strategic excuses, shifting responsibility, skill, suffering, the illusion of self-destruction and so on.

The relations valid in the merger, over time, begin to resemble a junkie and heroin. There is a dose of good, very good, euphoria, happiness and so on. No dose - longing, sadness, life is uninteresting. In his free acceptance of doping time, everything revolves around him - thoughts, actions, plans. Along there, along here, where twitch - to the foot!

Sometimes, when we do something very much I'm afraid, the best way to calm yourself is depreciation. Well, something like "actually she did not really need, since not loves me." If you convince yourself that the person didn't provide any value to survive the hypothetical breakup much easier.

... I don't know how to split the family, because it is not in my competence. Of course, I'd love to have power over people, but only two people can destroy a family, a husband and a wife. More - no.

To love yourself means to have support inside the case that love from the outside will not become, or the level will decrease, or something. To understand yourself, clearly understand their needs and boundaries to protect them, to be able to take care of yourself not only to eat and sleep, but in the moral aspect. Proper love of self implies a wholeness of person. When it is not - we rush to find that feeling from the outside, we begin to live only when we have someone like.

Somehow, it seems to us that if we love someone a certain way, he is obliged to do the same.