Dean Delis, Cassandra Phillips. The paradox of passion (№ 390416)

Starting to explore their behavioral schemes, remember that first and foremost we should strive to articulate their thoughts, avoiding an accusatory tone, recognizing that the conflict involves both of you. Talking about problems often useful to use this approach and support it with key phrases for example:
"looks like we caught in a vicious circle";
- "apparently, we don't understand each other";
- "I think each of us pulls the blanket over himself".
The basic idea of communication without accusations is this: "it Seems we are caught in a vicious circle - you had a natural reaction that I, too, there is an understandable reaction; she, in turn, causes your..."