Author of quotes: Mark Goulston

People succumb to fear, like a squirrel in a wheel. His thoughts run around in circles and with every turn more and more out of control.

Sometimes you have to surrender to win the battle.

When an irrational person attacks you, your first instinct is to punch back. But it won't work. So don't consider it an attack. Change your attitude, stopping and saying to myself: "Great opportunity to exercise self-control". <...> Remember to take away your self-control is one of the most effective methods in the Arsenal of an irrational person, and your refusal loss of balance - the best defense.

... if you have not yet invested too much in a relationship with a person suffering from personality disorder, think is not sensible to stop them altogether. <...> If you don't have enough good reasons to take care of yourself.

Select a moment to think about mentally ill people suffering from schizophrenia or delusional depression. You know that talk will not help to solve the problems of these patients? You do not come to mind to say to them: "Hey, you do realize that is not actually the Antichrist?" or "Not so bad your life is, so take out the gun mouth and go mow the lawn." However, I think that's how you deal with domestic loonies. You somehow think that you will rescue them. &lt;...&gt; ... everyday craziness, as a psychosis, is not treated in the usual conversations. It does not use facts or logic. The psycho, despite your attempts to persuade him, still can not suddenly change their behavior. Madmen do not refuse to change it, they can't do that.

Realize that crazy behavior does not concern you. But it says a lot about the person with whom you are dealing with. Ceasing to take personally his word, you deprive the enemy of important weapons. However, use during a conversation need psychological tools, they will keep you from having to fall into madness. These tools will allow you to avoid "capture the tonsils" - an intense emotional reaction to a sudden threat. This term, coined by psychologist Daniel Holmanom describes the state when the amygdala - the part of your brain responsible for the formation of fear blocks rational thinking.

There are four sign that the people with whom you are dealing with the irrational:
1) they have no clear picture of the world;
2) they say or do things that make no sense;
3) they make decisions or take actions not in their interests;
4) when you are trying to put them back on the path of prudence, they become absolutely unbearable.

... instead of focusing on the past or present, think about the future, because its something you haven't had a chance to spoil.

If you encounter sociopaths, the best way to interact with them - do not interact.

But to be angry is the same as to swallow the poison, hoping to die a different person.