Author of quotes: Jenny Anderson. Page 1

In the course of their scientific research we have not found the slightest evidence of the effectiveness of recrimination as an incentive to do housework. But we found many indications a much more effective stimulus, which ought to know all the grumpy, annoying its second half endless claims. This trust. In the truest sense. Rely on the fact that your loved one will make all itself, without your guidance, and if he's not a psychopath or a serial killer, he is however surprising it may sound - really do everything.

They were caught in a vicious circle: the more she nagged, the less he wanted to help her, rather than less willing he took on the household chores, the more she was blamed.

Money 'crowd out' private initiative of the person and the desire to do good for the sake of a good cause (to indicate this kind of motivation exist clever term - so if you want to show off their knowledge at the get-together in the bar, know that this is called "prosocial motivation").

It turns out that in some cases material rewards discourage people wish to work in the first place this applies to volunteer work and academic success.

According to economists, few people are so prone to moral hazard as tenants. As a rule, they refer to their temporary housing much relaxed than the owners, because it is not theirs, and therefore they have no incentive to protect it

As found by Kenneth arrow, in the absence of the unpleasant consequences we have motivation to behave irresponsibly.

We acquired habit due to the fact that for some time committed the same action, but we can suddenly "throw it overboard" - and replace with new, if you decide that the results no longer justify the effort.

In marriage, like the economy, the opacity can hide the upcoming disaster. If you ever honestly and openly discuss their dim sex, they turn into a taboo - Something-about-it-impossible-to speak. And will never get better.

And when your family set a high tariff for the sex, you make a choice in favor of a mindless evening watching TV in the company of jelly doughnuts. Important point: under the "fare sex" we do not mean literal cash reward. We mean that you personally have to sacrifice for the sake of it: 15 minutes of sleep, which you are sorely lacking, emails unanswered, a midnight run to the supermarket to buy baby johnny applesauce tomorrow.

On the one hand, we all eventually begin to behave in marriage passively, not trying to throw coals into the furnace of passion. We prefer the serial communication, Sudoku orgasm, a glass of wine - 15-minute workout on the treadmill. To break out of this routine, we need the ability to actively make decisions. On the other hand, we and your marriage as a whole begin to perceive passively. If it will never be the same as before, why even try?

Economists would describe the behaviour of Rob and Ellen as "the attraction to the status quo" - a separate "view" of the rejection of the loss, which makes us prefer the old and familiar new and unfamiliar. Any change entails loss, and our man of the worldly mind does not want to accept them.

It is often the correct formulation of the question depends on how we will respond.

We already knew that a long battle is often a trivial unwillingness to retreat.

Unfortunately, we don't always know what aspects of family life we shall be especially concerned, until, before we begin, this is the family life. Ashley, for example, had no idea how much she cares eared grass on the lawn, and then she had the neighbors with their perfectly manicured lawn, and she lost the rest. And Sam had not even realized how he likes homemade food, because before marrying him, no one was prepared. After living together for some time, Sam and Ashley began to understand now what is important to them and what is not. And came to the conclusion that domestic issues do not solve themselves and what to deal with them "on the fly" is unlikely to succeed.