Harry Guntrip. Schizoid phenomena, object relations and the self (№ 409361)

The life of such people passes in the change of habitats, clothes, work, hobbies, friends, occupations and marriages, but they are not able to create stable relationships, always in need of love and at the same time fearing binding ties. This same conflict explains the tendency of engaged or married couples to imagine or feel affection for someone else as if they want to maintain freedom in their feelings, at least in fantasies. One patient remarked, "I want love, but I shouldn't be possessed."