Author of quotes: Harry Guntrip



Let's imagine a number of general expressions that characterize the relationship of an introvert with other people in order to understand how common the "schizoid type" of personality is. When communicating with people every day, you constantly hear: "he has gone into his shell", "he only listens out of the corner of his ear what you say", "he is always anxious" or "absent-minded", "he lives in a world of ideas", "he does not live in this world "," he is an impractical type "," it is difficult to understand who he is "," he cannot admire anything "," he is insensitive "," he is very successful, but ruthless. " You can easily multiply this list. All these statements can refer to people who are stable and quite adequate, but who clearly lack the ability for simple, spontaneous, warm and friendly responsiveness. They are often more emotionally responsive to animals than to the people with whom they live or work. They are reserved, “cold” people: and not in the sense of the opposite of “hot”, emotional people, but rather in the fact that their relationships with people are in fact emotionally empty.
№ 409365   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 02:00
<... > this man was absorbed in his object of love, did not have his true individuality and could not exist separately from it. It was as if he had not separated from his mother's psyche and differentiated as a man with his rights, and identification with another person remained the basis for all his personal relationships.
№ 409364   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:57
It is perhaps even more effective to mask the true nature of compulsive, bogus zeal for doing good by simulating caring for others. There is really no genuine feeling for other people. This behavior is certainly not deliberately fake. It represents a sincere effort to do everything possible without the ability to release genuine feeling. What may deceptively look like genuine feelings for another person are actually based on identification with the other person and are mainly feelings of anxiety and self-pity.
№ 409363   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:54
Oscillation "now in, now out", "rapid approach and retreat", "clinging and breaking", of course, are extremely destructive and interfere with all connections in life, and at some point the anxiety becomes so strong that it can not be tolerated. Then the person completely leaves object relations, becomes clearly schizoid, emotionally inaccessible, detached.
№ 409362   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:51
The life of such people passes in the change of habitats, clothes, work, hobbies, friends, occupations and marriages, but they are not able to create stable relationships, always in need of love and at the same time fearing binding ties. This same conflict explains the tendency of engaged or married couples to imagine or feel affection for someone else as if they want to maintain freedom in their feelings, at least in fantasies. One patient remarked, "I want love, but I shouldn't be possessed."
№ 409361   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:49
My mood is always changing rapidly; as soon as I find myself next to the person with whom I wanted to be together, I immediately feel that he is limiting my freedom.
№ 409360   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:45
The schizoid patient believes that he and the people he needs and loves are inextricably linked, so that during separation he is confused and does not feel safe, and when reunited, he feels swallowed and lost his individuality, returning to infantile dependence. Therefore, he must always striving hard for the sake of security and immediately break out of this relationship for the sake of freedom and independence: the oscillation between regression to the uterus and the struggle for birth, between the absorption of his ego and its separation from the person he loves. A schizoid can't stay single, but he always fights desperately to defend his independence, like those movie stars who spend their best years quickly getting married and divorcing.
№ 409359   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:42
Because of his insatiable and unsatisfied need for love and the ensuing from this incorporated and monopolizing attitude towards those in whom the schizoid needs, he cannot but seek his objects. But as a result, any relationship that includes a genuine feeling, unconsciously begins to be perceived as a deep trap and as a mutual "devouring". This intense anxiety makes it seem like there is no alternative other than a complete withdrawal from all relationships to prevent the loss of your independence, and even your self. Relationships seem too dangerous. Thus, the worst problem for object relations arises, when the ego seeks to find safety, dispensing with objects completely and sinking into the fear of disappearing into emptiness.
№ 409357   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:36
We can say that the ego of the schizoid personality in consciousness and in the outside world is "delibidized" and does not feel any interest in objects, since oral-sadistic and incorporative hunger for objects generates intolerable anxiety about their safety and requires isolation.
№ 409356   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:33
A satisfied baby sucks, an angry and potentially depressed baby bites, a hungry and potentially schizoid baby wants to swallow the breast.
№ 409355   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:30
The schizoid is extremely sensitive and quickly feels unnecessary, because he is always alone in his inner world.
№ 409354   Added MegaMozg 15-12-2020 / 01:27
Complaints about the feeling of isolation, of supertasty non-africasomali, alienation or strangeness when things are not in focus or seem unreal, when there is a sense of unity with other people, or life's emptiness, with the loss of interest when everything seems futile and pointless, they all have different way to describe this state of mind. Patients usually call it "depression", but it is devoid of heavy, dark inner feelings of grief, anger and guilt that are easy to distinguish in a classic depression. Depression, in fact, often directed outward and is associated with the inability to Express your anger about external objects. The above condition rather represent the "schizoid state". They obviously are introverted. Depression is associated with objects. Schizoid personality abandoned objects, though still needs them.
№ 395396   Added Viker 19-05-2020 / 11:03