Sam Vaknin. The narcissist presents... (№ 461693)

Even your most harmless actions, even if your actions are not related to the narcissist at all, they will be woven into the story that the narcissist is the victim. The narcissist will keep a very watchful eye on you, observing, spying on you to gather incriminating evidence. Everything you say and do will be used against you during a narcissistic trial. You have been warned. It will be like this: I am the victim, and you are my abuser. The narcissist also thinks that you are an emotional blackmailer. You sacrifice something so you can then use your own sacrifice to get the narcissist to behave in a certain way.