Author of quotes: Irvin Yalom. Page 4

What we have often starts to have us.

Marry at a Mature age, he would say, so like the man who marched on foot three quarters of the way and then decided to fork out for an expensive ticket to pay for the whole trip.

Many people in trying to look strong, decide that it is better not to want; desire makes a person vulnerable or exposes him: "If I never wish, I will never be weak." Others, demoralized, make yourself immune to your own inner experience: "If I never wish, I am never disappointed or rejected." Other people hide their desires from their own eyes in the childish hope that a certain perpetual Trustee will be able to read their wishes in their place. There is something infinitely soothing in the belief that someone else will satisfy our unexpressed desires.

Better to let people be what they are than to accept them for who they are not.

The antidote to much of the suffering is a simple human relationship.

We hate those who know our secrets and luring us into a trap of tender feelings. In such a situation we need not sympathy, but an opportunity to regain emotional control.

You can never take anything man, if you have nothing to offer him in return.

We are all lonely ships in the dark sea. We see the lights of other ships, we can not reach them, but their presence, the light of lights, and is similar to our tragic situation gives us great comfort in our existential solitude.

To be truly intimate with others, we must truly listen to the other, to reject stereotypes and expectations of others, and allow themselves to form another.

Passion, excitement, lust - these are the true oppressors. The crowd all my life eating like a pig from a trough of lust.

The biggest tree is the highest elevation and is rooted in darkness, even evil [...]

And wonderful, even amazing, how people, with his life in concrete, always leads another life in abstracto... here, in the realm of quiet reflection, seems to him cold, colorless and alien to the current moment the fact that there is absolutely owns them and much care him: here he is just a spectator and the observer.

Cases, cases, cases, slept with the computer. Maybe he was banging, who knows.

Loneliness exists only in solitude. Divided the loneliness of dying.