Sam Vaknin. The narcissist has no memoryLearning... (№ 461864)

Learning is when you know something and then react emotionally to it. And the emotional reaction to what you have learned creates a memory trace. And we call this learning. If you are simply confronted with given pieces of information and have no emotional reaction at all, you are likely to forget it. Research has shown that within one year, you are likely to forget 90% of the information you encounter. Because you don't have an emotional reaction. If I tell you facts right now about something that really doesn't interest you at all, you will most likely forget it within one year, within a few days. So this is the same thing. I know what I know about narcissism, but it doesn't trigger any emotional response. So I keep forgetting the lessons of my life. It's like every single day, I'm reborn as a child. And I make the same mistakes, I face the same problems, I experience difficulties. I do everything wrong again and again, almost without exception. I put myself in danger again and again. There is no learning process here, no cumulative acquired conditioning.