Book: How to love a child

The child should be taken for what it is; to respect his present, and potential future. You need to accept his weaknesses (physical and emotional), needs and whims, even his bad side. Something I can fix, so long as the child wants it himself, and the teacher has room and ability to carry it along the chosen path. Much will be relaxed, but painful to the child. And his arduous struggle with them, too, deserves respect.
From the very beginning of life the baby is in an incredible tension. It is not respected and not valued for what it is. Deprived of property, freedom, choice and any other rights. It are encouraged to be better to get older - that is, to turn into another person. To respect a child means to recognize his right to date: to be myself now and not in the future.
The child is treated as feeble-minded, alcoholic, or convict. Don't trust him even the choice of occupation, his own health, dealing with people. Constantly protect from disease, accident, social disasters. And so, protecting him, essentially depriving the child of a normal life. Trust the baby is the most precious thing that we have with him - him: this is the first and highest manifestation of respect. In this trust, the child will respond to parents and carers reciprocate and this will begin, again, the mutual work of education.

... allow a little as the child, but required a lot as an adult. But the mind of a child is not weaker: it lacks only experience. Feelings stronger and he isn't able to hold them back. No specific child behavior, there are circumstances and character.

Small the market value of immature. Only before the law and God Apple-blossom is the same as the fruit and green shoots - how many of ripe cornfields.

Don't be ashamed to play. Children's games no.
Nothing adults say, and zaznayka repeat them: "So big, and plays like a little. So big and still plays with dolls".
It's not about what to play and how and what to think R feel. You can cleverly play with dolls and silly and childish to play chess. It can be interesting and with great imagination to play in the fire or the train in a hunt or Indians and pointless to read books.

Your temper, well, okay, fight, not very strong, angry, once a day. One hour of open war better permanent latent discontent and irritation accumulating.

Because money can give everything, except happiness; Nay, even give happiness, intelligence, health, and morality. But you show your child that money brings and misery, and sickness, and deprived of reason.

One word ascribe too much importance, too much is expected from him, others underestimate the con. And those and others are wrong. Words alone will not do anything, but without words will be.
The word is always an ally, not an alternate.

There is nothing more harmful to education than false modesty.

The child has the right to demand respect for his grief, although he'd lost the stone, you wish, although would like to go without a coat for the frost, to the absurd view on the matter.

Teoretiziruya, we forget that it is our responsibility to teach the child to speak the truth, but to detect lies, not only love but hate, not only to respect but also to despise not only agree, but also indignant, not only to obey but to rebel. <...> In the region of negative feelings we are self-taught.

The child becomes attached to a doll, the goldfinch, the flower in the pot, because as yet he had nothing else; the prisoner or the old man is bound to do the same, because they have nothing.

The lack of experience the child lives in the present.

However, it is an indicator of a child's development, but not the only and not the main. Looking forward to the first word is error, proof of educational immaturity of the parents.

Beautiful child should be brought up differently than ugly.