Book: After you

And I have to say that although we are called group psychological support for those who want to move on, none of us can go forward, not looking back. We go forward, carefully bringing the memories of those who lost. And the main goal of our small group was to understand that these recollections are not a burden, burdening the soul and makes us stagnate. No, the memory of our loved ones we should consider the gift of Heaven. And our meetings during which we shared memories, experiences and small victories, let us understand a very important thing. It's okay to be sad. Or lost. Or angry. It is normal to feel all range of emotions, perhaps not always comprehensible to others. And often for a long time. Each of us must go your own way. And we have no right to judge anyone.

I think people get tired of watching someone else's grief, - said Natasha. Just as the grief you get a certain amount of time, maybe six months, and then your sadness all already becomes a bit annoying. They believe that long to grieve means to indulge their weaknesses.

... despair is a sin and only labor will help to cope with depression.

... love, for me, was the equivalent of pain.

... sooner or later changes.

Not having to get their own children, I have learned a few important things about what it means to be a parent. Whatever you do, you'll still be wrong. If you're violent, or authoritarian, or careless, you will certainly hurt the fragile soul of his ward. If you're a loving, attentive and will praise your mentee for even the most minor achievements - say, if he managed not to oversleep in the morning or to refrain from Smoking during the day - it's like getting out of hand. I found out that if you are a parent, de facto, all of the above remains in force, but you don't have those powers that you're supposed to be endowed with, because the food and service his ward.

- Mom, you're not going to get a divorce, right? - swallowed me.
She immediately opened her eyes:
- To get a divorce?! Louise, I'm a good Catholic. And Catholics don't get divorced. They just force their husbands to suffer until the end of the century.

... some things require more time than others.

It is very important not to make the dead saints. It is impossible to go forward, being in the shadow of the Saint.

When you lose a loved one, it is very difficult to plan for the future. Sometimes people begin to feel like they have lost faith in the future, sometimes they become too superstitious.

And she really was drowning. Drowning in a sea of fears, guilt and remorse.

... so important that there are people who can say a very simple word: No. It's not your fault. You're really not to blame.

Louise, all of us would be wrong. And you should not blame yourself for that.

Depression is a very difficult thing. And not only for the person who suffers from it.