Arkady Pants. Conversations about happiness (№ 408149)

To turn passion into love, you need to find many common interests and provide each other with emotional support.
sympathize, regret, rejoice together
and sad. And on this easy and relaxed love, you can slip through three or four years of marriage.
And then affection joins love. Attachment occurs when another person
becomes a part of our lives. He is always somewhere nearby, and this calms, creates a sense of stability and predictability. What's predictable is safe. Stability and security are as necessary for us as food and sex. The man falls asleep with a pleasant feeling: "I will get up in the morning, slippers at the bedside, toothpaste in the bathroom, my wife - in the kitchen, coffee cooks. And in the evening, when I come back, we will watch the film together, talk, we will have sex." He can work as an advertising manager, a policeman, a neurosurgeon, but he needs coffee, slippers, a wife at his side, in the evening a movie and chatter about everything, at night marital sex. Sounds unromantic to the extreme. But without stability, there is no happiness.