Archimandrite Andrew (Konnos). Christ is in our midst (№ 393225)

I remember you once said to me: "This love has caused me so much pain!" Don't know if you remember my answer. I told you what I have gathered from books and my own experience: love itself is never painful. Because love is life, love is the light that is the breath of our hearts is the blood circulation, through which the brain, heart and every cell is saturated with oxygen. When you love, life fills you. Love does not cause pain! But I believe that at that time you really felt pain. not only because of love, but because of unfulfilled hopes that didst expectation of reciprocity. You loved and you'd like rewards, reciprocal feeling. That's why then it became painful. Did you expect a definite reaction, but none came. But when you realize that true love is not seeking, not waiting, is not willing, then you will not be bothered, get something in response or not no. If the feeling will be mutual, you'll be very happy you will be fine; but otherwise, start to suffer.