Sam Vaknin. (№ 462658)

How does a narcissist create addiction in an intimate partner? He idealizes it and then allows the intimate partner to form an emotional attachment to the idealized image of himself. So it's just a form of self-love. Therefore, when an intimate partner falls in love with a narcissist, he does not fall in love with the narcissist, because the narcissist is unknowable. A narcissist is simply a quantity of something that one cannot fall in love with. The intimate partner falls in love with the image idealized by the narcissist. The narcissist gives access to an idealized image and then allows one to be in contact with his idealization and this is excellent. You just fall in love with yourself.