Book: Games people play

Based on the most obvious classification is based on the following factors:
1. Number of players: game for two ("a Frigid woman"), three ("come on, damn it!"), on the five ("Alcoholic") and many ("Why don't you..." "Yes, but...").
2. Material used: words ("Psychiatry"), money ("Debtor"), body parts ("I need surgery").
3. Clinical types: hysterical ("Rape!"), syndrome obsessions ("Clumsy"), paranoid ("Why things always happen to me?"), depression ("I go again").
4. Zones: oral ("Alcoholic"), anal ("Clumsy"), phallic ("let's fight").
5. Psychodynamic: anthobia ("If not for you"), projecting ("PTA"), intereconomia ("Psychiatry").
6. Classification by instinctive impulses, masochistic ("If not for you"), sadistic ("Clumsy"), fetishistic ("Frigid man").

Fortunately, free of games of real human intimacy, which is or at least should be the highest form of human existence, brings such a huge reward that even a person with unstable equilibrium can without fear and without regret, to abandon games if they are lucky enough to meet such a close friend.

That's how life is, it's not often we fall moments of genuine intimacy, besides the human psyche can not withstand the huge stresses associated with some forms of intimacy, so for the most part, to live in society means to play the game. Therefore, games are necessary and desirable, the only question is whether as a result a sufficient reward. In this connection it should be recalled that the distinguishing feature of each game is its culmination, or payoff.

Numerous clinical data clearly show that the germ of the game is imitation, and that it originally created for Adults (neapsigausi) aspect of a child's personality. If in the adult the player manages to enliven as I Child, this component of personality (the Adult within the Child adult) that finds this psychological skill and ability to manipulate people that psychiatrists are respectfully call him a Professor (of psychiatry).

Realizing the man is alive, because he knows that feeling, knows where he is and when. He knows that after his death, the trees will grow still, but he can't look at them, so want to see them with all the acuteness of perception, on what is capable.

Don't you think that tonight the walls are perpendicular?

There are people in which the Child totally out of place and clumsily takes control of the whole personality, but at the same time, they have well-structured Adult which only needs to discover and bring into action.

Awareness this is the ability to see a coffee Cup and hear the birds singing in their own way, and not as taught. With high probability we can assume that in adults and children vision and hearing is arranged and that in the first years of life in them more aesthetic and less intellectual. The little boy happily watching birds and listening to them. Then there is "good father" and believes he should "share" the experience and help his son "develop". He says: "This is Jay, and this is Sparrow." Since, as a boy will think, where's Jay, where's the Sparrow, he stops to see birds and hear them

Often playing with people who have lost mental balance; in General we can say that the more anxious a person is, the harder he plays.

A husband who is quite able to have Breakfast at an expensive restaurant, nevertheless, every morning, makes some sandwiches and carries to his office in a paper bag. For this, he uses a scrap of bread, the remains of yesterday's dinner and paper bags which saves for his wife. This gives him complete control over the finances of the family - a wife would dare buy herself a mink stole in the face of such sacrifice? The husband retrieves additional many benefits for example the opportunity to have Breakfast in solitude and work in the time saved. In many ways this is a constructive game that would have approved of Benjamin Franklin, as it encourages frugality, diligence and punctuality.

... When I write these lines, on my Desk crawling centipede. If you flip back, you can see what a huge effort she puts in to get back to his feet. In this time she has a "purpose of life". And when the centipede turns, it seems, you can almost see the look of triumph on her face. A wood louse crawls, and you can imagine how she tells her story at the next meeting of woodlice and looks at young shellfish down as having achieved your goal. But her smugness mixed with a tinge of disappointment. Now, when she reached the top, life seems devoid of purpose. Maybe that centipede will be back, hoping to repeat his triumph; should mark it back ink, to see when she decides to take a chance. Courageous crustaceans pill bugs. It is not surprising that the lives of many millions of years.

"Perfect friendship" is often based on the fact that the players complement each other very efficiently and with great satisfaction, so that in mutual games get maximum gain with minimum effort.