Author of quotes: Ute Erhardt

Most of us remain enclosed in the usual scheme, as in cells. We willingly accept the role of obedient girls than cheerful women. Why is this happening? Why are we so often hesitant to do something, in our opinion the “bad” (and perfectly normal from the point of view of most men)?
The answer is - we are afraid. We owns fear of being punished for naughtiness, for any, even minor, violation of the rules. We think about whether the love around us, if “good girls” we will become “bad”... a Consequence of fear, depression, rejection of the most simple pleasures and entertainment. And besides, we seldom get what they really want.
The reasons for this behavior lie in the past. From infancy boys and girls brought up differently, and this is the same helplessness, which is firmly attached to women.

Women sacrifice themselves and believe that these sacrifices will be noticed and appreciation is sure to follow. And, hoping for it secretly, to speak about the second victims they dare not. Expected remuneration is considered rude and frowned upon.
In fact, any woman must learn the simple things to seek reward, or at least to specify in advance its possibility. In this case, the one who is the victim or just a service, shall have the choice to accept it or reject it. And everyone knows what he expects and what they have.

Any well educated woman does not want to stand out. To escape, to adapt, to merge with others - that's the motto, which is often written on the flag “a well-mannered woman.” It seems that after becoming invisible, it will achieve its goals faster and more successful.
And being invisible and obedient girl (which, in fact, sought from her childhood), she was terribly surprised that none of it is not praise and does not endorse...

We can do everything, but the miserable history of the last four generations, not a good life. A good life, "behind the broad back" (aka "Stonewall"), in which the women of the world have seen a dead end, a trap to us can only dream of.
... And in this dream we don't have to stand in a dull job in the chilly winter darkness, we are spared from the eternal bustle and lack of sleep, finally feel safe and protected can finally play with dolls-kitchen-tchotchke-wrappers to Give unnecessary power to burn the frog's skin with their hands, and let all the unpleasant relationship with a harsh and unpredictable world will take It! In the dream, we don't wonder what it is He needs and what may be the price. Are we so good, didn't deserve? We wouldn't have tried?..
... Some, however, were already awake and the awakening was terrible. And what? Very often there is a simple answer: He was not one who would again give your glass slipper, where is the Prince? Oh, how sad to see a beautiful, intelligent and talented, happily ready to step on the same rake, which already broke thousands of women's heads on both sides of the Atlantic!

And at first, the pockets of our aprons prudently empty: this is the place for a crystal slipper. After all, if you really try, you will certainly go to the ball. So promised. Prince is waiting, looking around for the crowd not just a beautiful stranger, and certainly a good girl. This means: that which now does not think with emotion, not versed in court intrigues. The one that in their new responsibilities for a long time not recognize the old kitchen. The one that never supported the mother and did not protect father, and she herself hardly be able to defend themselves and to maintain. The other, and to complain that no one will: as you know, the Fairy Godmother leaves the wards, successfully attached "vzamuzh".

Women make themselves dependent.

Men ideal proportions and forms of care much less than women.

Depression is often the result of inaction, of lack of motivation and inability to activities.

We need to abandon the perception of his life as something frozen and not modifiable.

Women rarely seek in themselves the cause of their troubles in life, so are rarely willing to take responsibility for their lives and future.

One way to avoid mistakes and misconceptions to get to the bottom of their needs.

Who has the power, and responsibility.

To exercise authority means to encourage others to do something, even if others don't Express much joy from such a perspective, or do not want it.

Success comes to those people who clearly present their ideas, Express desires and put requirements.