Author of quotes: The fine art of apathy

Have you heard about Parkinson's law: "The job fills all the deadlines for it." (It is known in different formulations.) And you certainly heard Murphy's Law: "If something can go wrong, it will go wrong."

But one night, while lecturing the philosopher Charles Pierce, James decided to do a little experiment. He wrote down in his diary the installation for the year: no matter what happens, consider yourself responsible for all the events in your life. This year, he will do his best to overcome circumstances, no matter how likely failure may seem. If after a year nothing comes of it, it means that he is really powerless in the face of circumstances. Hence, all that remains is to commit suicide. What did this lead to? William James became the founder of American psychology.

Am I jealous? And if so, why? " "Wasn't I angry?" “What if she’s right and I’m just defending my pride?” Questions like this should become a mental habit. In many cases, their very appearance makes us more humble and compassionate, which is necessary for solving many problems. Let's make a disclaimer: the very fact that you are in doubt about your rightness does not necessarily mean that you are wrong.

Such is life: things are going badly, people are grieving, accidents are happening. It feels like. And that's okay. Negative emotions are a necessary component of emotional health.

The principle of "Do something" not only helps to overcome procrastination: through this process we learn new values. If you are caught by an existential storm of shit and everything seems meaningless - if all your life standards have cracked, the future is unknown, dreams have collapsed or you feel a need.

Only in unhealthy relationships do people try to solve each other's problems in order to feel peace of mind themselves. In healthy relationships, people solve their own problems out of caring for each other.

There are no correct dogmas, no ideal ideology. There is only what, according to experience, is right for you personally. And even then it is not a fact that you have drawn the correct conclusions. And since you, I and everyone else have different needs, different personal stories and different life circumstances, we will inevitably come to different "correct" answers about what is the meaning of our life and how to live it better.

Growth is a gradual process. When we learn something new, we don't go from "wrong" to "right." We go from wrong to somewhat less wrong. And with each new fact, our views become a little less wrong. But we do not comprehend the full truth. We do not achieve complete perfection. We are always on the road. We cannot see the ultimate truth. But you can gradually, step by step, move away from today's mistakes, so that a little less to make mistakes tomorrow.

We all get our hands on cards. Some are better, some are worse. It's easy to hang your nose and feel left out. However, you can do otherwise: get involved in the game with all its risk and try to use your cards. People who consistently make the best choices in the given situations consistently win in poker and in life. And they don't always have the best cards in their hands.

People hooked on resentment as a drug

The only way to beat suffering is to learn to make it.

Dabrowski believed that fear, anxiety and sadness are not always harmful for the mind often without them psychological growth. To deny this pain is to deny our own potential. As for the pumping of the muscles to endure physical pain to endure emotional pain for the development of emotional resilience, independence, compassion, and indeed for the attainment of happiness.

Life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer from wealth. The poor suffer because of poverty. Lonely people suffer due to the fact that they have no family. Family people suffer because of problems in the family. People looking for worldly pleasures, suffer because of worldly pleasures. People abstaining from worldly pleasures, suffer from abstinence.