Book: The art of love. Page 1

The forms that the individual chooses in non-orgiastic culture are alcoholism and drug addiction. In contrast to those who engage in socially approved action, such individuals suffer from feelings of guilt and remorse. Although they try to escape separation by taking refuge in alcohol and drugs, they feel even more lonely after the orgiastic experience is over, and the need to return to their refuge as often and as intensely as possible increases. The sexual orgiastic solution to the problem is not much different from this refuge. In a sense, it is a natural and normal form of overcoming separation and a partial response to the problem of isolation. But for many individuals, whose separation cannot be overcome in other ways, the source of sexual satisfaction acquires a function that makes it not too distinguishable from alcoholism and drug addiction. It becomes a desperate attempt to escape the anxiety generated by separation and, as a result, leads to an even greater sense of separation, for a sexual act without love can never bridge the gap that separates two human beings. Except for a brief moment.

It seems that after an orgiastic experience, a person can part with suffering for a while, which largely stems from his separation. Gradually, the anxiety tension rises again and again decreases due to the repeated performance of the ritual.

In a trance state of exaltation, the external world disappears, and with it the feeling of separation from it.

At all times, in all cultures, a person is faced with the same question: how to overcome separation, how to achieve unity, how to go beyond his own individual life and find unity.

After a man and a woman began to become aware of themselves and each other, they realized their separateness and their difference due to their belonging to different genders. But as soon as they realized their separation, they became strangers to each other, because they had not yet learned to love each other (which is quite understandable, at least from the fact that Adam defended himself by accusing Eve, instead of trying to protect her). Realizing human separateness without reuniting in love is a source of shame and at the same time it is a source of guilt and anxiety. Thus, the deepest human need is the need to overcome his separation, to leave the prison of his loneliness.

most people seek romantic love, a personal experience of love that should then lead to marriage. This new understanding of the freedom of love was to greatly increase the meaning of the object to the detriment of the meaning of the function.

Obviously, for most people in our culture, the ability to arouse love is, in fact, a combination of cuteness and sexual attractiveness.

Is love an art? If so, it requires knowledge and effort. Or maybe love is a pleasant feeling, to experience which is a matter of chance, something that falls to a person in case of luck. This little book is based on the first premise, although most people today undoubtedly proceed from the second.

To prove that capitalism correspond to the natural needs of human, it was necessary to prove that man is by nature inclined to competition and is full of hostility to others. While economists "proved" it, mention insatiable lust for economic gain, and Darwinists, speaking of the biological law of survival of the fittest creatures, Freud came to the same result, believing that a man directs limitless desire sexual conquest of all women, and only public pressure prevented the realization of this desire.

Capital dominates labour; the accumulation of things, something that is dead, - has a higher value than the labor, human power - that now.

I am convinced that the answer to the question about the absolute incompatibility of love and the usual "normal" life sound, which is incompatible principles underlying capitalist society and love.

It is hardly surprising that in a culture where the prevailing market orientation and where material success is the outstanding value of human love relations follow the same patterns that drive the market.

Those who take love seriously, as the only reasonable response to the problem of human existence, have come to the conclusion that important and radical changes in our social structure, if love will become public, not only individual and marginal phenomenon.

Alienation breeds anxiety. It is the source of all troubles. To be alienated means to have no possibility to use their human strength. To be separate from all means to be helpless, unable to communicate with the world - objects and people... in addition, it [alienation] is a shame and the guilt.