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Boys need to learn to be brave in order to forg their own personality and gain independence.

Mothers who rush to save their sons and solve their problems, as if to tell the boys: "You can not do anything without me." A good mom doesn't do that. She hands her son a tool, teaches him how to use it, and steps aside, letting her son act on his own.

There are a few important things you can do to protect your son from bullying and help him survive what has already happened. First of all, learn your son to behave politely, but decisively.

Shame and humiliation are the strongest and hardest to tolerate feelings for boys because they are so complex. These feelings affect self-esteem, self-image, representation of others. Any mother wants to protect the child from this, but it's not so simple. If you are not extremely careful, you can increase the humiliation of the boy by trying to fight for him when he is old enough to stand up for himself.

I'm always very wary of the labels of academic failure in elementary school students. In many cases, these boys just need time to mature.

I want to tell you: if you want your boy to grow into a man, confident in himself and in his life, teach him to fight for those who need his help.

When boys play video games and act impulsively, they receive messages and imitate actions, but do not get to the point of thinking about deeper problems.

Bruno Bettelheim wrote a lot about the fact that boys need to read fairy tales about "bad" and "good" guys, about the struggle of good and evil. This helps them to resolve their own internal conflict of the clash of good and bad.

There are many studies that support the devastating effects of violent games or movies on boys. It is known that boys, who constantly see violence on the screens, become more and more aggressive.

Everyone who knows men at least a little knows that a man at any age needs to compete and win all the time, physically or mentally. In any case, the boy is so arranged - he needs to feel control over the situation, over people, but most of all he needs to protect what he thinks is right. Many moms won't like it because women are wired differently. Of course, many of us are not obsessed with assertiveness, we rush into battle for those we love. But in my experience, boys are more prone to confrontation than their sisters.

Many mothers shield their sons from household chores. They think that boys are better off spending their free time in sports and other extracurricular activities necessary to get into a good college, or just enjoyable. I understand this desire - to help the child achieve a long-term goal, but the mother should remember: an interest in life or improving her son's skills is nothing if he does not learn labor discipline, point work is different from sports and other activities focused on the personality of the child. Work teaches us to persist in achieving results simply because it has to be done. If a child spends time in the afternoon picking leaves, they are not doing it to get praise or to improve their skills. He does this for the good of the family and is proud of his help and the responsibility entrusted to him.

A boy who has no responsibility can behave like a spoiled, spoiled bully. In fact, the reason for his behavior is dissatisfaction and loneliness. He wants to feel important and needed in his own family.

Even at six or seven years old, boys feel more confident when certain responsibilities are assigned to them. But many mothers feel guilty for hanging a list of errands on their son. We are housewives, we do the housework and provide comfort for our family. It seems illogical for us to entrust our son with homework. However, you need to understand that the boy needs errands, despite his whining and grumbling; only then will he develop a sense of belonging to home and family.

There are even more interesting ways to give your son the tool he needs on the path of life. You can teach him to think. Instead of indulging him with the desire to play video games or watch TV, offer interesting books. Better yet, read with him and discuss questions or thoughts that will arise during reading.