anxiety [Theme] Page 4

Anxiety and indecision ... It seems that life began only now, when I pulled myself together.

Anxiety exists where there is an opportunity to create – to create oneself, striving to become oneself, as well as to be a creator in countless everyday affairs (these are two phases of the same process). If there were no opportunities, there would be no anxiety.

Meeting with anxiety can free us from boredom, it can sharpen our perception, it creates the tension on which the preservation of human existence is based. If there is anxiety, then the person is living.

The presence of anxiety indicates vitality.

Unbreakable circle.

Reigns under the moon.

A life of eternal adventure inevitably fosters caution, vigilance and a constant sense of anxiety in you.

Oscillation "now in, now out", "rapid approach and retreat", "clinging and breaking", of course, are extremely destructive and interfere with all connections in life, and at some point the anxiety becomes so strong that it can not be tolerated. Then the person completely leaves object relations, becomes clearly schizoid, emotionally inaccessible, detached.

Because of his insatiable and unsatisfied need for love and the ensuing from this incorporated and monopolizing attitude towards those in whom the schizoid needs, he cannot but seek his objects. But as a result, any relationship that includes a genuine feeling, unconsciously begins to be perceived as a deep trap and as a mutual "devouring". This intense anxiety makes it seem like there is no alternative other than a complete withdrawal from all relationships to prevent the loss of your independence, and even your self. Relationships seem too dangerous. Thus, the worst problem for object relations arises, when the ego seeks to find safety, dispensing with objects completely and sinking into the fear of disappearing into emptiness.

“I need water and maybe anxiety on my pretty face.

It is not enough for a hydra to cut off one head ...

And to know that escape is no longer possible.

- In the highest degree erroneous, he continued after a pause, - to associate happiness with specific state and a specific person. Getting rid of this confusion, I discovered a very important secret.
- So tell me, for God's sake, what is it, - she said dispassionately. I always wanted to know how to live.
- It's very simple. If you do not put all the feelings into one thing, you can afford everything you want. To make decisions, to reconsider, to change plans. Disappear anxiety and desire to find out whether that other person is the desire whether it is or, alternatively, frustrated, upset, bored. If you're willing to do what you from early childhood, wean and excommunicated - merely to please himself, - drop out of reasons to continue to feel miserable.

What it's like to be lonely? A feeling akin to hunger: still hungry when everything is prepared for the feast. There is shame and anxiety, and over time they begin to exude outward, and a lone man is increasingly cut off from the rest, increasingly alienated. It hurts as hurt feelings, but there are physical consequences: they are invisible, hidden inside the closed cavities of the body. Loneliness setting in, I'm trying to say, cold as ice, and clear as glass, it encloses and absorbs.