psychology [Theme] Page 1

Everything that strengthens the child's conviction that he is the best and should be the very first is wrong. Some mistakenly believe that this is how high self-esteem is formed. No, this is how a neurosis is formed. Healthy self-esteem is not about “I am the best”, but about “I am good, I am valuable”, and this value is outside the hierarchy.

Yesterday, two patients came to my appointment, literally half an hour apart. The first has a seriously ill husband, her son is in prison, her daughter is pregnant by no one knows who, and she herself was fired from her job. And the husband promised to give another woman a Mercedes, but gave an Audi. So, both of them have a depressive disorder, loss of interest in life, suicidal tendencies. Believe me, people sometimes worry about such garbage, I tell you like any psychologist.

In Russia, few people go to psychologists. And it seems to me that this is not because our level of development is somehow low, but because in Russia there is no such culture at all to make your life easier. We do so. You say to a person:

It's amazing how the brain always resists what it doesn't like or threatens.

Rudeness is the psychology of a slave.

What do we do when fear comes to us? We tell him: “Make yourself at home! Maybe tea or coffee? ”, And he says:“ No, I need everything, ”and, alas, this is not about drinks.

If you feel sorry for yourself for a very long time, then you will not want to live completely.

Question: if we put a psychologist in the same room with a madman and do not let him out for a whole year, then who will we get as a result? Two psychologists or two lunatics?

What makes psychotherapy a real challenge is that it forces people to look at themselves from a perspective they would normally choose to ignore. The therapist will bring you a mirror with maximum sympathy, but it is the patient who decides to peer into the reflection, to consider all the details with the words: Wow,

In order for intimacy to be maintained, it is important for you to be able to work with this feedback from life when you feel shame. When you can not only admit that you are not enough here, but when you are not afraid to live shame, apologize, change. Because an apology without change is a husk.

Yeah damn yeah!!

I'm coming to the conclusion that around the age of 30, you should be taking more and more responsibility for your body too, and understanding your body better, and your emotions, and how your brain works. And not just to establish a connection with your brain, but to already be a full-fledged master of it, not an ascaris.

...but only how to get out of dependent relationships. A happy family is when both partners are not dependent on each other in moral or financial aspects. And they are not obliged to succumb to the blackmail of another.

In mating, as in food, hypothetically every "human" is omnivorous and capable of excited contact both with individuals of their own variety of genitalia and with individuals of a different variety of genitalia (humans have only two of them), but what will your particular " a person "depends heavily on his training and personal preferences."