growing up [Theme] Page 2

A difficult temperament does not mean a natural propensity to delinquency. But if society pushes a difficult child to the sidelines, instead of helping him, sooner or later he may find himself on the sidelines: not everyone will have the strength and perseverance to return from this side of the road again and again.

Growing up is exactly how we try to warm up that we are no longer omnipotent.

But for a real, fulfilling life, a child needs care, attention, a warm and kind attitude, understanding and acceptance. Without this, any child will wither like a flower without water.

In the arms of the mother, the child feels that everything is as it should be. He knows nothing about himself, except for the feeling of his correctness, attractiveness and desirability. Without this belief, a person of any age is flawed: he does not believe in himself, he feels deprived, he lacks spontaneity and grace. All children are correct, but they themselves can only know this through reflection, through the way they are treated. A sense of self-correctness is the only feeling of a person in relation to himself, on the basis of which an individual can build his prosperous existence.

Don't be an anchor to a child if you can be a sail.

I did not feel fear, I turned into a boy running away from the guardianship of adults out into that alluring forest with wild animals. I was told so many horrors about it that I simply could not go on living without having been there.

Any healthy child wants to grow up quickly. Why? Because he has no control over the world. He can't formulate it like that to himself. Mom!

Growing up is an action. You do things, you get used to getting involved.

The best thing you can do for yourself to avoid getting into or getting into fewer traumatic, disgusting situations is not to rely on any protection from outside. But it means being a person who is not afraid to take responsibility for their decisions. To become an adult who does all this work of connecting with his emotions, formulating situations for himself, right at the moment of formulating: what I want, what I'm going to, what I'm doing.

The child promised himself that he would never drink and never become an adult, but he only half kept the promise. Unfortunately, we all have to grow up.

You see, in principle, the instincts of our old pirate grandfather spoke in both of us. Only I got rid of them in one fell swoop, and you pull them drop by drop, you can't get to the bottom. I think that by nature you are much less a pirate than I am, and this is what ruins you: your life is an eternal compromise between a tendency to rebellion and anarchy, very moderate, and your hidden inclinations that attract you to order, moral health, I would said, almost to routine. As a result, you remained an aged, irresponsible student. But, my friend, take a good look at yourself: you are thirty-four years old, your head is gradually turning gray - though not like mine - there is nothing of a youth in you anymore, the life of a bohemian is not suitable for you. Besides, what is bohemianism? It was great a hundred years ago, now it's a handful of harmless muddlers who missed the train. You have already entered the age of maturity, Mathieu, or, in any case, you should have entered it.

- So that I fail, - added Isabella-Rose and immediately left.

To grow up according to Jane Austen is to make mistakes.

All my life at the bottom - we have not become a bit more mature.